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So, I began today like any other. I had a 7:30 a.m. coaching call. I coached my client ( and dear friend) about how transient life is. I discuss the fact that the height of arrogance is to believe that we know…that we know anything at all about the future.
I complete the call.
The phone rings. It is my husband. He tells me that he is with one of our daughters. Her 10 year old yellow lab has been shot and killed by a neighbor. Her other two dogs are injured, one seriously.
The contents of this incident are insignificant, although brutal. The process is the thing. What do I do with this information? What are my choices and what does this mean? And, most importantly, how can I support my daughter?
Emotionally, I am flattened. This brings up all of my unprocessed grief. My dad…whose name the dang dog shared, my deceased husband and only God knows what else. I have nothing else to offer today beyond the reality I began today with: we do not know what the next moment holds. Our lives can change in a moment.
Today, my unprocessed pain is projected onto a dog who was a part of our family. And while I comprehend that the loss of a dog at the hand of another who is armed with a shotgun is not considered murder, I must assert that the loss is cathartic for me and my daughter.
What I know for sure? This, too, shall pass.
Eventually.
God speed.
Filed under: Coaching, Journaling, Personal, Spirituality, Uncategorized | Tags: Cultivate Your Life, Desiderata, Mary Tucker, Max Ehrmann
When I was in high school in the 1970s, A spoken-word recording of an essay, penned in 1927 by Max Ehrmann, was made by Les Crane and reached #8 on the Billboard magazine charts in late 1971. The Desiderata was essentially a manifesto for living a meaningful life and it spoke to me as I came of age.
Here are some basic facts about what was going on in the United States during the 1920s, the era when this essay was born from the heart and mind of Ehrman, compliments of the Kingwood College Library:
106,521,537 people in the United States
2,132,000 unemployed, Unemployment 5.2%
Life expectancy: Male 53.6, Female 54.6
343.000 in military (down from 1,172,601 in 1919)
Average annual earnings $1236; Teacher’s salary $970
Dow Jones High 100 Low 67
Illiteracy rate reached a new low of 6% of the population.
Gangland crime included murder, swindles, racketeering
It took 13 days to reach California from New York There were 387,000 miles of paved road.
Some basic facts about the decade of the 1970s are offered from the same source:
Population: 204,879,000
Unemployed in 1970: 4,088,000
National Debt: $382 billion
Average salary: $7,564
Food prices: milk, 33 cents a qt.; bread, 24 cents a loaf; round steak, $1.30 a pound
Life Expectancy: Male, 67.1; Female, 74.8
The point I’d like to make is that regardless of where we are in life, when we are born or what is going on around us, deep within us, our soul’s desires change little. Outside of the ego structure that we have developed through out our lives, I assert that our authentic and essential selves remain pure and untouched.
I offer this beautifully wise and inspired essay as it is found in it’s copyrighted format:
DESIDERATA
Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others; even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in oyur own career however humble; it is a real posession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism
Be yourself. Espacially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy
MAX EHRMANN 1927
