Cultivateyourlife’s Weblog

According to Tom Landry, former Dallas Cowboys head coach and really smart guy, “A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, so you can see what you don’t want to see, so you can be what you’ve always wanted to be.”

Basically, that’s the simple truth. But, as humans, we make the distinction between simple and easy, and from this comes the most basic personal life narrative, the hard story. There are many variations on this story line. For example, there is the standard if not generic, life is hard story, followed closely by the my life is harder than yours story. Such comparisons provide us with the glue of our humanity, the self-righteous position. Because, who are we without our self-righteous positions, for god’s sakes?

Who, indeed? Who would we be without our absolute certainty that we know what we know. We know what is right for everyone, the planet, the cosmos and beyond. Yet, we just don’t know what is right for us. We look anywhere, everywhere for clues, input, feedback, scripts, models, evidence. We look to the stars and phases of the moon, palm prints, crystal balls, tea leaves, television, movies, books, pop culture, the good book, magazines, news outlets, even our bank accounts to tell us who we are. This list is not even a beginning to the extent we go to gain external clues that answer this seemingly benign question.

We beg the question: Who are we?

Our appetites for external resources on the subject of us are insatiable. We can’t help ourselves. Ours is the face that launched a thousand ships, and that’s an understatement. This hunger has fueled the entire entertainment industry, beginning with humanity itself.

My quest is to find my own way, my own internal and inherent truth, share my experience as a coach and a human who has been gifted with an ability to translate my own journey into a more fluent language that will make transformation possible for more of us.

Please check back often, follow my journey, my thoughts and expect to find a way to become inner-referring and fluent in the language of you. I don’t have your answers. I have my own, but because we are all human, we can project and reflect for each other.

So, “a coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, so you can see what you don’t want to see, so you can be what you’ve always wanted to be.”

Who would we be if we could learn to look within to find what we need to hear to see who we really are? A coach is a teacher and a student simultaneously. Please be with me as I discover me.